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Are Men Changing in India?
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In centuries of patriarchal society in India, boys/men grow up believing that they have the ultimate responsibility to protect and generate resources for their family. There is always a pressure to live up to this expectation for which they also often recieve special care. A mother would want to ensure that the son does not have to be hassled about the household work because he has to be busy earning. And what is the product in the end? - A man who may not be able to cook,clean, stitch clothes, etc at home. He is only trained to use physical power (because thats the only thing that they have more than women at times!) and deal with the outside world because there are always women to deal with the world at home! The most common reason men can give for this is, " We were not asked to do such things. So we do not know how to. Of course! we can learn if we want to!" But how many men actually get into the practical part of this thought?

What needs to happen in present times? Women in urban cities are progressively learning to deal with the outside world as well as manage the world at home. Her efficiency and skills are increasing and becoming far better than men. Men are lagging far behind but they may not want to accept this fact. Most of the men are still stuck in the way of thinking from 19th century while women in urban areas are well settling in the 21st century way of being. The excuse of "my mother made me so" cannot work all the time. It is the reponsibility of everyone to take actions for change in thier life. Men are yet to prove that they can change and consider women as equal. Men have to get used to the fact that women will speak thier mind without fearing "what will the man think" of thinking "of course, he must be right!" Women are right too. Men have to learn to listen to them. Of course, this journey is not too easy. But men have to take the responsibility to take this journey. Otherwise, they probably will have to get used to being rejected by women who might be far more efficient then them.

June 28, 2007 | 6:11 AM Comments  5 comments

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vas21 vas
June 28, 2007 | 7:16 AM

too good ,frank and right.keep it up.
binishahmed Binish Ahmed
June 28, 2007 | 12:05 PM

is this analysis accurate for the entire male populaion in India?
jamal Jamal
June 29, 2007 | 12:50 AM
frank openion
well i agree to some part of this thought of yours..... but i believe situation do not change on there own....and not abruptly, indian society is in its transition phaze....i have seen lot of changes in me if i compare myself with my previous generation...and obviously with the coming time where in any middle class family both men and women have to contribute financially to sustain a family, situations ought to change....
my frank openion to this article is that it shows only one side of coin...i agree that men are socialised in a particular way...but i also believe that things are changing, and for any change in society it is the responsibility of both men and women. blaming men for everything would only result in exclusion of an equally important agent of change i.e. men
Shweta-sj Shweta
June 29, 2007 | 12:57 AM
Is this analysis accurate for the entire male populaion in India?
My answer is that yes.its true for most men in India. But i have specifically talked about urban cities and specifically compared with women who are becoming increasingly versatile.
Often, men do not have to bother to change much (except when they have to work under a female boss or ..when they are living alone..or when they are the only caregiver to elderly parents). They do not have to change much because not every woman is able to challenge the patriarchal society. like men have been taught thier roles, women too strive to be excellent homamakers and carers. men appreciate women in this role and this way of acheiving acceptance from men keeps women in this cycle of pleasing men and thier family and proving themselves as good women, good wives, good mothers, good daughters-in-law.
osamuyi-2 Osamuyi Okpame
June 29, 2007 | 4:40 AM
Straight from the heart.
I think you have just spoken the bitter truth, which we “guys” always fail to admit not only in india but around the world.

Our society is changing, so are our traditions and customs. We must also adjust to fit in appropriately to this new life-style.
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